Cleaning House

Dusty Shell

5 Stars

July 29, 2012

There are very few things in the world today that make me shake my head in aggravation than the sense of entitlement that blankets today's young people. True work ethic is a rare find and some how, there is this air of self-importance that permeates the atmosphere, filling space with its expectations of "I am OWED this."

It's a serious problem and one that is going to tip our society over the edge when these youths begin to take leadership, yet have no genuine leadership skills. When they are in charge, but have no direction because they were always spoon fed the easy answers.

That's why my husband and I strive to ensure that are children are well loved, but not spoiled. They are treated well, but also expected to not only participate but to contribute to the family. In this consumer culture that psychoanalyzes every aspect of parenting until you feel there is nothing left to do but sit back and wait for your child to ask you for direction rather than lovingly guide and teach them, this is a fine line to walk.

After one of her children makes a surprising comment that shines the light on how she was inadvertently raising her children to embrace this entitlement, Kay Wills Wyma decides to set a plan in to action to reverse the tides.

In Cleaning House: A Mom's 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement, you will follow the Wyma family as they tackle one task per month to take the focus from ME and place it on becoming a successful, self-sufficient member of society that serves others as God intended. They discover that service is the key to squashing the pervading mentality of today's children that they deserve every thing that they desire, even if they didn't earn it.

While tackling serious parenting issues, Kay Wills Wyma does not lose her insightful sense of humor. Her amusing personal anecdotes involving her own husband and children will leave you giggling and nodding your head in agreement while also challenging you to examine your own parenting habits.

From clutter control to hospitality, this book covers a number of seemingly simple tasks that zero in on defining meaningful work and build character.

"In our society, children are generally not required to do meaningful work to help their families. Going to school, pursuing their extracurricular activities, and staying out of major trouble is considered their function. In the old days, boys (and girls) had chores and roles that were vitally important to the survival and functioning of their family unit. These roles gave children a sense of self-worth, vitality, and importance. they knew that they were an integral part of the survival of the family and that without without their contribution, it would suffer....A shocking percentage of children today suffer from depression and other psychological problems. Maybe this is a symptom of our culture of materialism, coddling, and entitlement. Maybe our kids are not given important opportunities to develop a sense of self, a sense of worth, a sense of accomplishment and ability to contribute meaningfully." From "Cleaning House" by Kay Wills Wyma

Can I get an "Amen" to that?